We Finished or We Done?

Sometimes you never know where the relationship is! Or better yet, where it’s going!

You don’t know if you’re in the friend zone or headed to the altar for marriage. You don’t know if they’re into you or out of view. Is it over or did it ever exist. “I’m lost! This is crazy! I’m leaving, but I don’t know how!” Well, that’s what you’ll eventually tell yourself when you realize that you’re too deep in to swim to shore.

So, what do you do? With all the training, guidance, signs and experiences you’ve had at knowing when it’s over; you still can’t seem to tell. So what a’ you do… you ask them. Which is what I hope you would never do – again.

Why did you do that? Because you want them to tell you the truth. But you realize they lie anyway. So maybe you just want to hear them say it. Well at least that’s what you tell yourself – again. You say you didn’t want to assume things and you wanted to hear them tell you, but if you were to be honest you really only wanted to – hear them – regardless of what they were telling you.

So you ask them and they respond. In the most confusing way possible they don’t answer your question and if they do their actions don’t line up with what they said. For example, if they say they want out, they keep texting, calling and asking to visit. And please don’t let a child be involved! Talk about tokening children to play games with you.

But maybe there is a difference between being finished and being done. Or maybe not. At least we know one thing; finished and done don’t mean beginning and starting. I guess what we can take from this is that when you’re Finished you also have to be Done. Being Finished is the decision to end it and being Done is the actions associated with ending it. So you can be done without being finished and you could be finished without being done. So how do you be both?

There is a difference! Wow, I nearly surprised myself with that one.  But this is what I know to be true about relationships. You can end a relationship and not walk away from it. Your body can leave, but your brain and emotions stay!

You keep things that are associated with the relationship. You ride by places you once visited together. You search social media for their latest updates. You even, well, you know what you do… …

So maybe you have to be FINISHED & you have to be DONE!

I’M FINISHED looks like this: – We’re not dating anymore. We’re not talking anymore. I’m moving on with my life and won’t be wasting my time talking and thinking about you.

I’M DONE looks like this: I’m throwing away everything that looked like you; smelled like you; or made me think of you! Your number’s deleted and blocked! You’re Un-friended in all social media networks. I’m getting your sent out my life and moving on!

I’M FINISHED & I’M DONE looks like this: I know it will take me some time to heal from all this, but it will be quicker if I just leave you alone. Yes, my heart is broken over it all, but it will Un-Break and when it does I won’t have to let you know. I will cherish the great times we had together and I will always remember the bad. You know, those things that got us to this point. I wish you the best… well, maybe not all the best, but some of it.

Just being honest…

I do hope you reap some of what you’ve sown, but if you don’t just remember that I Am ‘Forgetting You’. I’m not angry. Well, not totally. But I am  Finished & I’m Done! Good Luck!